V2: Hey, I saw people were going to the Geraldo of Homosexuality the "Homosexuality getting married is icky" topic, so I thought I needed to bring people back...so a poll!"

WHO should I marry? You pick! See below!

I thought this might be of interest for discussion.

For those that want to track down the full article:

'Genetic and Environmental Effects on Same-sex Sexual Behaviour: A Population Study of Twins in Sweden', Niklas Långström, Qazi Rahman, Eva Carlström, Paul Lichtenstein, Archives of Sexual Behaviour, 7 June 2008, doi 10.1007/s10508-008-9386-1.

This was in summary a study on twins, (7600 pairs of Swedish male and female twins, in 05-06). Of the total, 7 percent have had a same-sex partner.

I do not, sorry to say, have access to the whole article, just to a summary report. If someone can get the whole article to share that would beyond fantastic.

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This diary is cross-posted to my blog, where I've included a Time magazine cover from the 1950s of Cohn.

Coming out.

I recently came out to a bunch of my friends, none were terribly surprised and all have been extremely supportive.  I'm really fortunate to know so many educated, progressive, and caring people.  This has been a much easier, more freeing, and cleansing (really) experience than I ever expected.

The next group on my agenda is my family, which is going to be a little bit more complicated but not bad either, my parents and siblings are pretty cool people.

But where do I go from there?  How does a gay person get along in society, at work, in the community, etc. without having to let every new person they meet aware of their sexuality.  Not that I want to hide who I am anymore, not at all.  I've just been trained to not wear it on my sleeve like so many people do, that I'm not sure how to communicate who I am to others without an overt, obvious statement.

There are, of course, many alternatives to heterosexuality.  The ones that most people think of are homosexuality or bisexuality.  And then there are other forms of sexuality that most people would regard as perversions, such as necrophilia or frotteurism.  But what a lot of people don't think about is asexuality or celibacy, which is practiced by a surprisingly large number of people for a remarkably wide variety of reasons, many of which are not religious.  There are even some people who experience atrophy of the sexual organs because they don't use them at all, and there is actually some truth to the adage "use it or lose it."

Maybe Larry David has a little extra time on his hands, a relationship gone bad, worries about losing his hair, chronic heartburn, who knows.  It's okay with me if Mr. David wants to skip Brokeback Mountain.  It's kinda sad though that Larry David needs to recycle an old Seinfeld episode or two and see his name in print in the New York Times to notify us that he won't be attending That Movie.    

I remember a scene in a film called "In And Out" when Joan Cusack screams out, "Do you know how many times I had to sit through "Funny Lady" to Kevin Kline who has discovered that he's gay just before their wedding.

Should I regret all the Seinfelds I've watched?  Of course not.  Nothing rubbed off except the talent of Mr. David and the perfect cast.  I repeat the lines to some friends and I never understand when they stare at me blankly and respond with, "Never watched it." "Too hetero."  "Too Jewish."  Call me naive but I only noticed the good work.